Designated Pop Off Days

...cause really I ain't about to let you keep trying me. Nah.

I have a calendar that is called "Designated Days you can pop the fuck off (if you want to)" Or D-POD (designated pop off day)

These are days that I will allow myself to get as low as those who dare try me on those days, if I choose to.

But really they are days in which I will take the time to respond to those who I normally wouldn't. Those who just want to argue. Those who want to talk shit. Those who try to knock me off my game. And on and on.

I am not where I would consider myself to be a good person. Or I am good person but there’s much room for improvement. Yeah, I know many of you will say I am a good person. Thank you for that. But one of the things that holds me back is that I still want to match the energy of everyone who comes “scorched Earth” for me. I want to end them. I want to take them down. And they mamas for raising the type of child who carried the audacity to cross me.

And I don't always know when to stop. I don't know when they have tapped out. I don't know when to let up. It was worse when I was younger. I don't ever come for those who don't come for me. I don't have the energy to seek out conflict, but I ain't running from it when it comes. I was opening the door. Period.

Eventually I realized this was not the person I wanted to be. I didn’t want to be this person who would react at everything someone said that took me outside of myself. One day I realized that I had more to lose than those who come for me. That was the day I started a plan to change.

I don't respond to those who call me into their spaces with the intention of dragging me. That was hard at first. Cause ain’t one person on these innanet streets that make these legs quiver. I blocked those who I felt would bring out the worst in me. I didn't want to see none of their words, none of their content. I didn't trust myself to ignore. Honestly, still don't.

And there was a time when I spent so many hours going back and forth with people on my pages. Most of the time at the same time. Exhausting. I learned to post things that would get me some "heat" on different days. This is why you sometimes see posts I share on FB show up on IG later. Or I will only share here on Substack. I pick and choose. This minimizes that amount of shit I have to deal with.

This helped but this still wasn't enough. I still felt the urge to tell folks "turn on your location..." I wasn't where I wanted to be, but I was further than where I was. However, I still didn't want to allow ppl to say whatever the hell they wanted at all times. Sometimes, you can and should stand up for yourself.

So, about a year ago, I bought a calendar and named it "Designated Days you can pop the fuck off" (if you want to).

Every single week a different day is reserved for engaging those I have chosen to not engage any other day. The days are random. One week it might be Monday. Next week it'll be Thursday. I picked the days at random when I bought the calendar and I stick to it. Only thing is, I don't use the days to make up for things shared with me in the past. So, if you pop off in my comments, DMs, or emails on a Tues. and my D-POD is Weds., I ain't going back to address you the following day. Part of what helps me is to not dwell in the past. If I blocked and removed you from my space and presence, I am done with you. Ain't no going back. Don't think on it no more.

But if you happen to be feeling froggy on a D-POD, just know I jump higher.

Tiffy's Life Hack or whatever.

Go enjoy your weekend.